Tuesday, 11 October 2011


You hear it a lot people saying that they do not or did not have a choice but we know deep down that its simply not true. It is an undeniable fact that life is about choices, we make concious and unconscious choices every waking minute of our lives. We choose to wake up from a beautiful sleep and to go to work, we might choose to fake illness and call in ill. We choose the foods we love, when we pick a brand of our favourite ice-cream against another we are making a choice. Well you can argue that choosing a brand of your favourite ice-cream is not as difficult as some of the choices we are faced with in life. I concur however the most arresting situation is indecision, when we do not make a decision we delay the inevitable.

When you are undecided whether to turn right or left even the wind will carry you in any direction. When you do not choose that's when you blame fate because you have left an important decision to it and consequently there is no need to complain, whine and moan because of what fate will decide for you. In most cases indecision is caused by fear of making a wrong decision however when you do not make a decision it will affect you, you will continue stress over it. As you know stress is too arresting it will essential time that could have been spend pursuing activities that pushes you towards your goal, if its unchecked it will manifest itself physically.Suffering from stress can weaken your immune system and that can lead to a lot of health problems. Some of these problems can be of a psychological nature but a lot of them tend to be physical. Emotional stress can lead to high blood pressure. All that just because you feared making a wrong decision.

You need to tackle indecision I have devised a four part action plan to tackle indecision today:

1. Acknowledge the choices you have to make, in cases where you have multiple choices streamline them to just two by eliminating those you do not want earlier. You will need to weigh the pros and the cons of the choices you have.
2. Whether your choice is about business or a personal life, consult a professional adviser, it might be a lawyer, a marriage therapist. Seek counsel from a person who has your best interest at heart, sometimes its best to get such counsel from a person who is detached from the situation you are facing.
3. Begin with the end in mind, what is it that you want to achieve, that will make your decision easier. As I mentioned above indecision is caused by fear for the worst, its human nature. You will need to develop a positive mindset that whatever happens you will be fine. Even if it turns out that you made a wrong decision in the long run it will be a learning curve for you. Trust your instincts you might not have all the facts before you act but believe in your self.
4. Above all ACT, make a decision, stick to it do not look back take that leap of faith. when you act even the wind will propel you forward.

I want to leave you with a quote from a poem by a German author, poet and dramatist Johann Wolfgang von Goethe:
“Then indecision brings its own delays,
And days are lost lamenting o'er lost days.
Are you in earnest? Seize this very minute;
What you can do, or dream you can, begin it;
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”

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